What To Do When Your Ex Moves On - Secret Revealed!
It's amazing how many men feel tremendously alone. Not only have they been trained for silence, taught that it is unmanly to express what they are going through, they usually don't get feedback from the guys in their world. Your honest and positive feedback is vital. If you bond in this way, your partner will feel there is someone there who understands them and open up even more.
Have you ever had a "discussion" with your partner that ended up turning into a litany of past grievances, the things he did wrong, the ways he hurt you, and what he owes you now? It happens at some point in nearly every relationship, but the fact remains; men cringe when they feel this coming. When a man fears that his words will later be distorted, misunderstood, told to others or thrown back at him, it is impossible for him to open up. And the only way to move beyond this communication trap is to realize that whatever happened in the past, whatever he did or said, you were involved as well.
All relationships are dances. No one is entirely good and no one entirely bad. In fact, rather than seeing anyone as good or bad, it is more useful to notice the roles being played in the relationship and the ways in which all of us become stuck in patterns that we don't know how to get out of. For example, some women love playing the victim or martyr. They need the blame of the relationship in order to validate their own feelings and feel powerful over their partner.
In fact, they may hold a man to them in this way for a while. But it's a sure sign that the communication has completely closed down and the relationship is on the rocks. If you want to avoid or change this sorry state of affairs and help him speak to you openly, try this. Take responsibility for your part in the situation and see the ways in which you might have contributed to what happened. This does not mean blaming yourself, either. Just to look at the situation with a large eye.
Focus on all the things he did "right," not "wrong. Notice times when you were also less than perfect, and notice the ways in which both of you have grown and changed. The ability to forgive may be just as simple as realizing that what was true a year ago about him and about yourself as well may not be true now. Stay focused in the present. True communication requires the ability to remain in the present and to let the past be over when it's done. Secret 4: Become a Solid — and Secure — Listener.
Is it even possible to have honest relationships? The assumption is that everybody's going to be honest.
The truth is, few people are. And the main reason that people are dishonest is that the consequences are too big. Many men feel that women want and need to be lied to because they can't take the honest truth.
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Some of my clients have said that they fear telling their partner what is really going on in their lives, or how they truly feel because it will upset her. In fact, many women use their emotions to control men—and control the relationship. They demand certain responses from men, and feel devastated if they don't get them. Then they're surprised when he shuts down and doesn't talk. Unfortunately, many women also have strong images of how a man is "supposed" to feel, and think. That kind of fantasy makes the truth devastating, so they let the man know in many subtle ways that they do not want it.
We're all guilty of this from time to time, but being willing to listen to what he has to say is the beginning of a truly mature relationship. It gives the man the feeling that he has a solid partner who will be there with him through thick and thin.
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You want them to go out with you as a friend. And then you can build up attraction while you are with them.
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Because they were already attractive to you at one point in time. And you are not a stranger to them.
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You are someone familiar who looks very attractive. You have to treat them like an acquaintance you want to get close with. They were together for almost 4 years before he decided to call it off. She just said okay and gave him some space. He would reply to her messages. Slowly she started talking about the good memories together.
She started talking about how she missed him. And he reciprocated. He said he misses her too and still loves her. But whenever she asked him to meet up, he would make an excuse. Mindy kept on speaking to him via text. It seemed to go well until she asked him to meet. Every time he said no, Mindy felt rejected and lost hope. He wanted to explore his options. He was even going on dates while he was refusing to meet up with her as Mindy found out later. He thought that meeting up with her will make it difficult for him to keep his freedom.
He thought that he might be cornered into getting back together. And on the other hand, he kept on speaking with Mindy because he wanted to keep her as an option. Mindy eventually started no contact and decided to heal. Before contacting him again, we made sure that she has the right mindset about this. That she wants him back but does not need him. That if they get back together, it will be a new relationship and they will have to take things slow from the beginning.
That he needed to be a different person as well if they wanted to make it work.
When she contacted him, her ex was very excited. This time, he asked to meet up. When they did finally meet up, Mindy was a little bit disappointed in him. He was still the same person.
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She felt that he was manipulative and controlling. He wanted to keep her as a backup while fooling around with other girls. She found out from her friends that he was dating a couple other girls as well. Mindy decided to cut him off and move on. She had enough confidence in herself to not be used by a man like this.
She found someone who respected her after a few months. When you meet your ex, your ex will be a little bit skeptical.
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And when they meet you, their bullshit radar will be turned on the highest settings. They will judge everything you say or do. They might even say things just to text your reaction. When you meet your ex, you should truly be prepared to lose them. If you still have neediness and desperation inside you, your ex will sniff it from a mile away. When you have finished no contact, come back to this page and take this test.
Imagine you are sitting with them in a coffee shop. Your ex looks happy and you are having a conversation. Suddenly, they tell you this,. We have amazing sex, and an amazing connection.
But the level of disappointment you feel when you think this matters. Do you suddenly feel a knot in your stomach? Does it feel like your entire world came crumbling down? If the thought of your ex with someone else makes you feel extremely bad, then you are not ready to meet them yet.
They will try to see if what you truly have changed or everything you have been saying and doing just a charade to get them back. I call these the post breakup charade tests. For example, suppose you had an issue with jealousy and being controlling. They might casually bring up the fact that they went on a date just to see how you react.